WHY ARE WE MEANER TO OURSELVES THAN ANYONE ELSE?

The New York Times recently wrote an article on something I see all the time in my practice.  We seem to say things to ourselves that we would never say to our worst enemy.  As a therapist,  I hear people put themselves down multiple times in the same hour.  People are so exacting with themselves that they create impossible standards.  No one can live up to such a high bar and it creates a life-long burden.  One of the life-long skills I help teach my clients is how be nice to themselves.  Learning to recognize your strengths and accomplishments is one of the nicest gifts you can give yourself.